So, June 20th was the 10th anniversary of our wedding.  Understand of course, we lived together for three years "before he made an honest woman of me."  Heh.  More like I made an honest man out of him, but who's counting?

Anyway, I thought I would post a few things about this supposed milestone.

Thought 1: We have been together for at least 13 years, which beyond family ties, is a pretty long time.  Granted, I have a few friendships that have been around longer, but The Man and I see each other every day, live in the same house, share a checking account...you get the picture.  Color me impressed, we still love each other.  My parents are still in love after 54 years.  That is a lot of water under the bridge...I don't think they are counting the cubic meters, though.  I think they have plans on forever.  They are my examples.       

Thought 2: Surprisingly enough, we are both Aquarians, so it is amazing that anything gets done around here since we both procrastinate like no other, but we seem to be well suited.  I am a pure Aquarian, he is closer to a Pices...somehow we complement each other in our strengths and weaknesses.  We are both stubborn as mules...perhaps we haven't killed each other simply because we refuse to be the first to give up hope.  Whatever the case, we adapt, overcome, and still love each other at the end of every day. 

Thought 3: We have learned the art of compromise, and for two such stubborn people, that is quite an accomplishment.  We want this relationship to work, and since we are both stubborn, we will do anything we have to--including sacrificing our pride in our personal 'correctness'--that we make it work.  We can anticipate what will set the other one off, and either avoid it, or weather it, or diffuse it.  Marriage is all about compromise.  Anyone who tells you different is full of crap.

Thought 4: Ten years occasionally seems like forever, then again, I am often amazed by how long we have been together because it seems like only yesterday when we fell in love.  What amazes me the most is that I WANT to wake up with him beside me every morning.  Funny, that.

A funny story:
As our anniversary approached, I procrastinated about buying him a present, or even a card for our anniversary.  We made plans for dinner and a movie.  Earlier in the month, we worked together to buy me a new laptop (race-car-red, thank you), and him parts to build his own.  The day of the anniversary is here, and I get a phone call....

"Just so I don't feel bad, please tell me that you didn't buy me a present."
"No, no present.  I didn't even get you a card."
"Good."
"You didn't buy me anything did you?  I don't want to feel like a slacker, either."
"No.  I didn't know what you wanted."
"Good.  Because I figure we both got computer stuff and that was our anniversary presents to each other."
"Hehe..I did marry the right woman.  We got computers for our tenth anniversary."
"Yeah, we are geeks, both of us."   

As we step out to go to dinner, what did I find sitting in the seat of the car?  Ten red roses, and a lovely little card.  He did buy me something extra...but who's counting?